I’m going to be talking about what everyone else is talking about, in order to tell you why talking about what everyone else is talking about is bad. I know, I know, the entire premise of this is dumb because I’m doing exactly what I am advocating against.
In fact, ArcaneTinkerTank agrees with this principle so much that he thought this post was stupid and that the blog should just ignore any hubbub going on. Oh well, he’s probably right.
Why we talk about it
When something is going on in the blogging community, it’s almost expected for you to weigh in on it. You want to prove that you’re not that idiot who is clueless about current events. See, look, I read stuff!
And sometimes you have something important to say. A unique perspective. Something that won’t fit into a comment.
But before you post about the latest issue, think about your motivation. Think about what you’re trying to accomplish. If it’s just for the sake of talking about what everyone else is talking about, maybe you should just butt out.
Why this feels personal to me
When I left the blogging scene, there were people who stood up for me. I loved them, and I thanked them, and they will be forever on my featured blogs because, hey, I’m biased like that. If you’re on my side, you’re a friend for life.
But when days went by, and the whole point of removing my blog was to disappear, and I started to see posts like “well everyone is talking about this so I should too”, I just wanted to tear my hair out and bellow at them – NO! The whole reason for the exit and blog removal was to get people to quit talking about the same stupid shit and move on. People who had never read or commented on my blog before were suddenly making these eloquent diatribes on their own blogs, dissecting my goodbye post, so I even got rid of that.
If someone writes something you don’t like, you don’t have to read it. How many blogs are there out there? A lot. If a commenter says “I don’t like what you wrote, I’ll unsubscribe…” Great. Unsubscribe. If someone says something you don’t like, you don’t have to listen anymore.
And people say stupid shit all the time. Especially when it’s NOT written and it’s verbal. And trust me, if they were in a perfect world and had speechwriters leaning over their shoulder saying “I think you might want to reconsider this sentence because…” or “that title might be considered inflammatory” then they’d have the perfect analytical means to know how EVERY statement of theirs would be perceived.
How many times have you said something and realized that you were actually saying something that sounded like a dirty penis joke without even realizing it? I do that ALL THE TIME. Oops. Whatever. Move on. Weiner. Oops I did it again. Wang. OH MY GOD WHERE IS MY SPEECHWRITER?!