Kurn has an excellent post about women who raid – like hard-core raid, not the casual raiding that I do – and it got me thinking.
In the seemingly-neverending train of gender-related posts going on nowadays, I need to put in my opinion. Cause, you know, I’m important.
I’m a mommy. I don’t hard-core raid because I don’t have the time. Well don’t “have” is a misnomer. You can always make the time, at the expense of other stuff. I’m not willing to do that. Priorities, right? Time when the baby is sleeping is fair raid time, but it has to share with other after-bedtime activities like doing dishes and laundry.
Now, if I were willing to take on the lion’s share of the housework, and put the baby to bed, that would free up the husband to hard-core-raid, and I’d probably not have time to play at all. Or we could do vice versa. Whatever. But as we do things 50/50, there’s just no room for both of us to hard-core raid, and we could only swing it for one of us if the other got the proverbial shaft.
Not every family is 50/50. In some families, the wifey does the lion’s share of the baby care and housework. Is that fair? No. But it does free up the husband to hard-core-raid.
So to recap:
- Not possible to hard-core raid in a 50/50 household with children.
- Possible for one partner to hard-core raid in a 80/20 household with children.
- If the household is 80/20, it’s likely that wifey is the one doing the 80.