Has this ever happened to you?
Person X: “This thing that I don’t like happened/is happening in guild. I want it to stop.”
Person Y: “Thank you for bringing it to my attention. I will talk to the person responsible/ discuss the guild policy with officers.”
Person X: “Furthermore, this has been happening for months. And while months ago, I never voiced my opinion on it, I am extremely irate about it now, and feel like I have been wronged. Because, you know, it happens to me OVER AND OVER again.”
Person Y: “Well, uh, months ago, you didn’t tell me /us, so it’s not really fair to blame me/ us for it now. I can only address going forward, and I am.”
Person X: “But I just DID tell you, and my complaint with the guild now is more super-serious because it’s been going on for months. Don’t you feel like a jackass? Because you totally should.”
Person Y: “Uh, what?”
This is pretty much what precipitated the guild split that happened a little while ago. People claimed after the fact that they had wanted something all along – and blamed guild leadership when the leadership had no way of knowing that the problem existed.
This kind of shit happens in the gaming world and in real life. I am guilty as charged of letting it go 40 times and on the 41st time biting ATT’s head off for leaving his socks in the living room. Because at that point the socks had reached critical mass and were starting a breeding program under the couch.
But that’s not right and it’s not fighting fair. It doesn’t mean I lost my right to complain about the socks because I didn’t say it the first time. But when I did finally address the socks, I couldn’t hold socks 1-40 against ATT. I had to start at sock 41 and go forward from there. I had to treat it like it was the first sock, because it was the first time I had mentioned it. I may have been irate over the behavior happening over and over – but the only one to blame for that was me, for not saying anything around sock 10 or 20.