I’m pretty damn demoralized by pugs lately. And why? Because people won’t fucking talk to each other. Here’s how it usually goes:
Me: Hi, blah blah intro how are you blah. Something about how familiar I am with the instance.
We pull trash. There are symbols put up, but since nobody is talking to each other, not even the briefest mention in chat, nobody has a clue which ones to cc, and so no cc is done. I end up blowing all my cooldowns on trash. Funsies. But I manage.
Sometimes I comment on the lack of CC and how it’s tough for me to heal through that. No response. Sometimes I don’t bother since I’ll end up with silence.
OK, now we hit the boss. We wipe. This is because someone was supposed to be assigned to do JOB X (interrupt, kite, click the something), but since we did not even have the briefest discussion beforehand, that didn’t happen. We discover this on the run back, and ONLY AFTER we’ve wiped, do they deign to talk to each other. (However, until I say something like “what did we do wrong?” they don’t take the initiative to break the silence to discuss what happened.)
At this point, the tank usually says something totally out of line to ME, and fed up, I drop group.
The problem is not that we wiped. Wiping is fine. We learn. We get up, we move on. The problem is that the wipe is caused by the absolute refusal of ANYONE in the group to coordinate. Also, the tank using the healer as the scapegoat honestly baffles me, since I’m not the one who is supposed to be doing the crowd control, interrupting, or other assorted things that are causing wipes.
Sometimes, it seems that I am the one who is the object of the tank’s ire because I actually speak. What the hell, right? As a latest example, the tank criticized one of the dps who said absolutely nothing back, and the criticism faded. However, the tank was QUITE irate with me, and just would not quit. I ended up dropping due to the tank, after apologizing to the DPS for the wait time.
I’d like to be able to PUG when guildies are not online or not available, since I do need the VP (Firelands has no spirit gear except tier pieces), but I don’t think I can put myself through the misery of the silent passive-aggressive pug.